The age-old, time-tested tradition of making a New Years resolution or two is upon us again. And sure, you could commit to signing up for more yoga classes, squeezing in more cardio, saying no to the carbs or eating more salad. In fact, I think you absolutely should incorporate those things into an overall commitment to live a healthier lifestyle if that's one of your 2018 goals.
But that's not all.
I think I can speak for most of us when I say that 2017 taught us a lot. As a writer and member of the media, it taught me to stick to the facts, go with my gut and pursue what I believe to be right at all costs, as a daughter, a sister and a partner, it taught me to be more forgiving and less "judgy" and as a friend it taught me to let go, to show up and to be there when it matters, to make the time. But as a person it also taught me to embrace myself a little more, to pursue the things I love, to reach outside my comfort zone and find the strength within myself to simply, begin.
As a true people-person, I often find myself reliant on outside relationships, I rely on them as the end-all, be-all to my own happiness and self worth. And while relationships and people are incredibly important, a crucial piece of the self-image puzzle, so is self-fulfillment and honestly, to rely solely on the contributions of others for your own happiness will inevitably lead to disappointment no matter the circumstance. Simple because you can't control the actions of others, the only person who you can control, is you.
And thus, I've decided that 2018 be dubbed the year of loving myself! Embracing myself and all my potential and all the things I have yet to learn.
And not in the same way you might think that involves accepting myself for who I am, but to instead commit more to pursing me, to doing things for the sake of learning, creating and curiosity and not feeling guilty for making the time to do those things.
As a new year begins and so too the self-reflection, it can sometimes become so easy to start a new year with the same routine never stopping to think why?
So I implore you in 2018, to try these five ways to discover fulfillment in your own life and perhaps become more capable of sharing it with others:
1.) Are there new things you'd like to learn? Learn them! - Knitting? Sewing? Leather working? Jewelry smithing? Google it! Visit your local community college or library website and look for classes to get you started.
2.) Are there new people you'd like to meet? Meet them! - Take your coworkers up on that happy hour they've been talking about, go online and search out community members who are part of a group with which you have similar interests and join the group! Join a workout class, a runners circle or something similar that involves doing things you like to do! It's the best way to meet people.
3.) Are there things you don't feel like you ever have time to do? Make time! - Stop making excuses and start getting to the root of the problem. Perhaps you need to commit to unplugging, to not spending as much time on social media, or on your phone and just be still with yourself for a bit. Whether it be meditation or working out or just spending some time to yourself. Realize why you aren't making the time and be honest with yourself.
4.) Are there new places you'd like to explore? Explore them! - There is no better time than now! On a budget? Visit someplace nearby, make it a day or weekend trip and skimp on things you don't need! But go out and see the world while you can, you never know what tomorrow brings.
5.) Treat yourself, invest in yourself and find fulfillment - Be the person you want to be and look for happiness within yourself.